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Wanted to bring back an old post that went up over the holidays and may have been missed. It was a pretty good one, so I want to bring it back to the masses now that everyone is bright eyed and bushy tailed again!

Now on to the good stuff.

Y’all know there is just an undeniable difference between sex with a friend and sex with your lover. Obviously, most people would jump to say that sex with your lover is the best. And, usually I would venture to agree. But let’s break it down. Starting with your lover first.

Sex with your lover:

It’s passionate, he/she knows all the nooks and crannies, and he calls you sexy names like “baby” or “angel” or “madamoiselle”. Ok that might be a little weird but you get the point. He’s running his fingers all gently though your hair. She’s rubbing your back instead of scratching it. You guys mouth kiss (which it’s generally a rule that you do NOT mouth kiss the randoms in the bed lol). You roll around the bed instead of toss around. Even when it’s rough, it’s loving. He stops to ask “baby (angel, madame), are you okay? That didn’t hurt did it?” All followed by a loving kiss on your neck, back, hand. Flowers blossom, birds sing, and rainbows flow from your ass to the ceiling. There really aren’t any embarrassing moments as you guys are close enough to not care. You guys compromise on who sleeps in the wet spot and you even spoon afterwards. Of course this is awesome!

But wait…

Sex with a friend:

You guys are cool, attractive, and it’s all good. He may step to you or you may step to him. But when it goes down, it goes down. You may kiss, but there’s no mouth kissing. Maybe lip biting, but no slips of the tongue straight to the mouth. It aint pretty, but that’s what makes it so good. The passion is animalistic. He may not know all of the nooks and crannies, but he will pull out all the stops to make sure you enjoy yourself. You will too. I mean you want all that Sh*t you talked to be worth it and true. You scratch and he pulls your hair. There are no sexy names that roll of the tongue, just moans and total reckless abandon. You guys bounce all over the bed. You try out all kinds of crazy positions and when those embarrassing moments happen, if y’all are real cool, you can laugh it off and make fun of each other. Sometimes there’s even random funny dialogue during the act that usually would be corny, and it is, but who cares, it’s just your friend. When y’all are done, you are able to just hop up and bounce away for the all important post-sex pee (PSP) and all is well with the world.

Ahhhh these all sound like the good. But what about the bad and the ugly. Got that for ya too.

Sex with your lover:

Sometimes this can be boring. You guys may have tried it all, and get comfortable. Every night it goes like this: Kiss, Kiss, clothes come off, grabs a boob, lick, head, missionary, and if it’s a good night, either Cowgirl or Doggy next, or if it’s a holiday, all three. In that order. And while sometimes he may smack your booty or she may dig her nails in, it’s almost like it’s part of the script. Like [insert random act of ruffness here]. Y’all mouth kiss so much, it takes away from his ability to appropriately thrust while in missionary, and the lady’s ability to really control the ride. I said earlier that there aren’t any embarrassing moments, but if something gross does happen you do kinda feel bad because you guys expect these moments to be perfect. You guys barely break a sweat and sometimes y’all spoon directly afterwards and all that stickiness can sometimes be annoying. All that being sweet, romantic and cuddly sometimes makes it hard for the lady to sneak away for the absolutely most important act of the PSP. You don’t want to ruin the moment though, so you lie there festering in all the harmful germs. LOL

But wait….

Sex with your friend:

It’s wild, it’s crazy, and it can leave you sorer than hell. See he may not stop to ask “are you okay? That doesn’t hurt does it?” And while you’re in it to win it, and hey you may even like a little pain, you are having to grit your teeth through the drilling he’s giving you. Eight or 10 minutes of it felt great, but now, you are pretty sure you are out oil, and you hate Alaska for Palin and that damn “Drill Baby Drill” slogan. You hair is completely sweated out, your ass is smacked cherry apple red, and his back looks like you clawed your way up his body. It was great during the act, now that it’s over you are beginning to suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from the war that you just participated in and you are need of the infirmary STAT! If and this is a big if, your friend is hanging around for the evening, the guy tends to leave the wet spot for you when you jump up to take care of the PSP and when you get back, he’s passed out and comfy in the warmth of the bed, while all that’s left for you is a corner of the blanket and the dreaded wet spot. *sigh* You gotta give some to get some.

It goes both ways. I think I’d rather have sex with my lover because that would imply that I have a lover and I’m not single. But damn if I don’t love sex with a friend. Of course these are sweeping generalizations but it’s a blog, so sue me. I say what I want to say. LOL

Also, one could say that the “sex with your lover” that I described could be called “making love” but that just didn’t sound as good in the blog title.





  1. awesome!
    Much food for thought…
    It really made my day.
    Thank you.

  2. I’ve had lovers who i was able to have friend sex with. I like to switch it up, don’t slow screw the bull sh*t out of me all the time cause i’ll get bored and while your back there i’ll be watching you have to gain and keep my interest. That means if your not getting a reaction out of me then u need to pull it out of me.

  3. I don’t think the two styles are mutually exclusive… you can have WPBNS (wild, passionate, butt nekked sex) with your lover, too (I get your point though, and I agree with the blog license to say what you wanna). But I’m glad you highlighted the legitimacy of sex with a friend. I have (in the past) made sexy time with friends, and it really was just something to do cuz we’re both attractive people with something to offer. And that’s it. No “what does this mean??” convos after. No desire to be together (because you both know how crazy each other are). It is what it is and has it’s place.

    And since I can always think of a song for every occasion, this to me illustrates the good and bad that can happen with sex with friends:

  4. Generally sex with a friend is simpler to me because we aren’t trying to fuck the person into loving you. Too many times when girls (guys too) feel seriously about someone, they try to make sex into some kind of biological symbol of why they should be together. But I believe that simply, sex is good. It doesn’t mean anything but that. It is a force of nature. Sex with a dedicated lover becomes ALWAYS more than that: it could be a reflection of intimacy, of mutual respect, of forgiveness, of trust, etc etc. Sex with a friend amounts to that animalistic urge to cum. simple. unbiased. neat. That’s not to say I don’t love sex with the hubby. Just to say it’s always more than just sex–even when it’s wild.


  5. Hmm, I don’t think I fare too well with the sex with friends. I think it gets a bit complicated, well at least for me it did especially when you’re not exactly on the same page. We’re friends, not lovers, so when I start dating someone else, the friend needs to know their place and know that they don’t get to be salty. However you spin it, IMO someone ALWAYS wants more, and when you move on and they are no longer the fallback sex toy…someone is bound to be hurt.

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