yes folks, ladebelle’s life was in fact threatened by a now ex. it’s this statement coupled with a conversation with the incredible slim jackson that lead to the writing of this blog and need for your feedback.
summary of slim and i’s conversation:
we were chatting about last weeks “i need a man” syndrome post and i brought up how my ex had told me that he would kill me if i ever cheated on him (and this was one of the reasons that lead to the ultimate demise of our relationship). slim’s response was that that made sense. and naturally i’m like, “oh wise slim, how in hades does that make sense?” slim tells me that men’s reactions to women cheating on them is more extreme then a man cheating on a woman and that women will most likely take the cheating man back. i thought about this and spewed some pro-woman speech and society and blah blah blah… something like this:
i think that society grooms women to be docile creatures and accepting of men’s trifling ass behavior. women are taught to be happy with just having a man period–even if that means settling for a sub-par man. and this is bullshit
hence the birth of this specific blog.
i think that it’s a known fact that both men and women cheat. men suck at it and women are more calculated. but why do they cheat?
research shows that these are the top 6 reasons for why men cheat:
- she ain’t what she used to be
- she nags too much
- the thrill of doing something they aren’t supposed to be doing
- they just want to because they think they’re missing something or they settled down too early
- it’s “biology” (i’d like to represent that i think this right here is bullshit)
- it’s just sex
ok… so now for women’s top 6 reasons:
- familiarity breeds indifference or we just don’t feel appreciated
- you’re leading parallel lives and spending less time together
- the passion has fizzled
- the fantasy has fizzled
- your ego needs a boost
- it’s payback for his cheating
i think that cheating is a result of something missing in the relationship period.
what do you do?
so now someone has cheated. what are the responses?
men, do you go crazy and kill her? do you choke her out ike-style? or do you like mario winans (i think that’s who the song is by) and you want your woman to keep it on the low?
women, do you get lorena-bobbit on that ass or are you more like hillary clinton? are you publicly supporting him for cheating with a crazy transvestite while silently plotting against him? or do you simply pack your shit and go?
let’s talk about it!
ladebelle (aka i’m happy i’m still alive)
at this time i would like to point out that there are more songs by women going crazy over a male cheating on them then there are songs by men going crazy.